IF YOU CARRY BRICKS FROM YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP YOU WILL END UP BUILDING THE SAME HOUSE
RELATIONSHIPS… why do we look for the “one “
Why do we look for “the one “? many of us seem to spend a long time looking for the one partner we can spend our lives with. Laugh at each other as our bodies fall apart. Our soul mate. Is the truth that there is more than one person that walks through life with us ? The days of people marrying at a young age and staying together until death they do part have gone. Why is it we feel like we have to do that. Of course it is not the best way to jump from one relationship to the other in order to have as many as possible.
RELATIONSHIPS… why do we look for the “THE ONE”? When we come out of one relationship we often then fear failure of the next one. Expecting our new partner to be different and not to hurt us. More over we expect them to make up for the previous disappointments. In the same fashion we also put the new partner on a pedestal expecting them to shine in every way for the rest of our lives. Nobody can live up to our expectations.
WHAT ABOUT US “DADDY’S GIRLS”?
In the case of us ladies, I feel it is our doting father’s that tell us nobody is good enough and not to settle for anything less than the perfect husband. Unfortunately, we then find to our dismay that there is no such thing! To say nothing of the poor bugger that eventually falls off the towering pedestal we put them on in the first place. It all adds up to suppressed emotions and repressed anger that we carry in emotional luggage. So are we expecting too much of our man folk ladies? Do they try to make us happy and feel that they are failing miserably?
RELATIONSHIPS… why do we look for the “one “
Does relationship counselling actually help? If both partners are similarly committed to saving and improving the relationship, then of course it does. In the same fashion we could say that if they are both committed to improving the relationship then they don’t need it. If they are the right match, they can sort it out better themselves. The fact is that every relationship is as individual as the people involved in them. As a matter of fact a relationship counsellor can only really act as a kind of referee. Together with preventing any points of contention becoming heated arguments. With this in mind, it could be beneficial in cases where resentment and anger tend to be an issue.
RELATIONSHIPS… why do we look for the “one “
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Romance_(love)
What is the meaning of Romance? what’s your idea of romance. Of course it can be very different for all of us. We can dream of romantic dates and different situations that we want our partners to do with us. The real idea of romance is having the desire to do the same things and finding them romantic. If you meet someone that has the same list of desires to yours then it should make for a happy, long lasting relationship. Equally important is idea that you arrange to have these dates together and not just one partner making plans for the other one. Equal effort has to be there or resentment will eventually set it.
RELATIONSHIPS… why do we look for the “one “
If you find something you both enjoy doing together then why should it matter if it doesn’t fit into what many people see as “romantic”. Has Romance become too commercial, just like Christmas and Easter. It’s become a challenge to see who can do the most romantic gesture. It’s all about how much you spend on your partner at Christmas or on dates. That’s all the wrong reasons. It’s not being done because they want to, it’s because it’s expected and because we think we ought to. This in itself builds resentment. Do we need to take more pleasure in the simple things in life and find a partner that has the same ideals ?