RELATIONSHIPS “THE UGLY TRUTH ”
RELATIONSHIPS “THE UGLY TRUTH “Relationships are something we all find difficult at one time or another in our lives. More over, not one of us escapes this issue. Not only does it bring all our fears to the surface, they can take over our lives. In addition there is no guarantee that we won’t get hurt. So how can we protect ourselves ? In the first place we can watch for the warning signs of a toxic relationship. Personally I find it difficult to live with the constant over thinking that can ensue.
IS THERE TRUST ?
In the first place, there has to be trust between you and your partner. It’s the biggest ingredient. Equally if there’s no trust there’s no respect , no respect, no love. If someone has been given your trust and it’s broken, that can set the benchmark for all relationships if we allow it to. Of course all relationships are different. Similarly I’m a great believer in happiness. It starts with a partner behaving out of character. Are they becoming emotionally distant? This tends to arouse suspicion in some people. If you have been taken advantage of before this can be an instant red flag.
Here is where we have to be careful though about putting your partner under suspicion immediately. Partner could have another issue that is causing their behavior. This is where good communication is vital. If you have concerns about your partner, talk to them about how you feel first.
If you put off talking to your partner about any worries you have, it will lead to you overthinking the whole thing. As a result, something that could be a small issue, becomes huge. In addition to the now large elephant in the room, you have added imagination and an atmosphere you can cut with a knife.
DO YOU SHOW EMPATHY ?
Do you try your best to empathize with your partner? It can go along way to getting closer to each other. Trying to put yourself in your partner’s shoes before embarking on a difficult conversation will make sure the situation doesn’t escalate any further. Do you have a mental connection with your partner? Do you finish each other’s sentences? This is a sign that you have a mental connection with your partner that allows you to pick up how they are feeling and how best to behave around them. Having a mental connection is almost like being twins. You hear of twins knowing when the other is in trouble even though they may be miles apart physically. More over, these connections can be almost telepathic.
WHAT IS A TELEPATHIC CONNECTION ?
This is actually quite rare. In the first place this is a soul mate connection whereby you are capable of being empathic to the point of mirroring each other’s emotions. Have you ever felt that emotions you feel sometimes are not yours some how. Maybe when you feel that next time ask your significant other how their day is going and see if your thoughts and emotions are parallel. Couples who enjoy this connection tend to have very intense relationships. They connect on a level that is so intimate they are effectively one mind separated into two bodies. This kind of bond is never broken and these people seem to walk along side each other right through life and depending on your beliefs, beyond. Soul mates, it is said are connected even in death. They communicate with each other from the different plains.
HOW DO WE NOW IF WE CAN TRUST OUR PARTNER?
The fact is, you don’t know. We have instinct, that gut feeling our sixth sense gives us when we first meet someone. Trusting your gut is generally quite accurate. However some people are very good actors and manage to pull the wool over our eyes. The eyes can be deceived and can deceive.
RELATIONSHIPS “THE UGLY TRUTH “
WHEN WE FALL IN LOVE
When we fall in love we tend to become vulnerable for some reason. As a result we are more easily fooled. So even if you have a little doubt about your partner, you can easily ignore for a certain length of time. We don’t want to believe that someone we are falling for is betraying us. Love is blind, it certainly is. The hormones take over and we feel so good that we don’t want anything to spoil it.
SOMETIMES YOU JUST KNOW
Sometimes you just know that you can trust someone and although that happens rarely, it does happen. When you meet someone and it feels like you have known each other for years so you trust them. That instant feeling of “home”. If we find that once in our lives we are lucky,
RELATIONSHIPS “THE UGLY TRUTH ” HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN THEY ARE HIDING ?
There are several ways that we can start to become aware that something is being hidden. Your partner’s behavior changes dramatically. Watch for the signs. By the same token, don’t watch and analyze every move they make. It’s so bad for both of you. That kind of pressure on a relationship can be fatal to it. Similarly it can make you both ill and mentally drained. Paranoia can set in. So what are the signs to look for?
1 . is your partner guarding devices ?
2. is there a lack of intimacy, both mental and physical ? sex is not everything, but it is a vital part of a healthy relationship or marriage. Mental intimacy is very important.
3. which brings us onto emotional distance. Is your partner becoming emotionally distant?
4. are there changes in there financial habits? such as paying for things with cash instead of cards etc?
5. do they pick fights/arguments with your family and friends?
6. suddenly becoming over defensive ?
7. dressing differently? although be careful with that one as it may be an innocence effort to keep you interested in them.
8. does your partner suddenly want to spend a lot of time alone ? this is another one to be careful of though as sometimes it is good to have “you time “. It’s also healthy to pursue a hobby on your own. Keeping your own identity is very important.