PERSONALITY DISORDERS… DISORDER ???? are personality disorders really a diagnosis? in some cases? In the first place , what are the parameters for the diagnosis? Where are we getting the guidelines from ? There must be a birth place where the “ideal personality” template was decided. In light of the global situation we find ourselves in. Not only should we be focused more on using all our resources to build a better future, but changing the current diabolical attitude.


Particular diagnoses of so called personality disorders are merely a complex brain. Thought process and emotional processing go together. As a matter of fact everything single thing we do and think is born from emotion. Self awareness is a essential part of effective emotional processing. Dyssemia is a psychological condition that tends to be part and parcel of other disorders.


Dyssemic adults lack the capacity to process especially non verbal communication directed at them by others. As a result, communication from others that is not properly processed by the brain tends to be bottled up. Furthermore it gets suppressed and tends to float back and forth in various thought processes between the conscious and subconscious. It’s a bit like these two parts of the mind saying to each other. “well I don’t want it you have it”. Passing it back and forth like it smells.

i don't want it you have it
emotions passed back and forth with nowhere to stay.

Good examples of this are not knowing the difference between flirting and friendship. Emotional lines drawn in the sand are important. Dyssemic individuals struggle with the concept of filing others emotions in the correct place. For instance, someone may be flirting and a dyssemic person wouldn’t necessary understand this. In his or her mind the emotional communication is that of friendship. When it becomes apparent in one way or another that there are undercurrents, the dyssemic person may feel a range of emotions all at the same time. To a patient with a disorder such as autism or aspergers, this can become very confusing and disorientating. Leading to a feeling of inferiority.


Social rejection is one of our fundamental fears when growing up. We want more than anything to be accepted and liked by our peers. Children with autism / aspergers suffer awful separation anxiety. Acute symptoms can last for years more than normal. As a result these children are a prime target for bullies and ending up loners. A sad fact of human nature that we tend to pick out members of the herd that have a social weakness or have difficulty interacting. Needless to say this only serves to worsen the condition further. This unappealing human trait is responsible for so many young people ending their own lives or self harming. Self harming being a form of self punishment for being what they see as weak. Children in particular can be so very cruel to one another,

kids can be so very cruel

Diagnosing our children with conditions such as ADD ADHD and some of the minor disorders is, in my opinion making a rod for our own backs. More over it tends to give the children involved free reign to behave badly and receive special treatment. In some it can be used as an excuse for a poorly disciplined child that has not idea how to integrate with their peers. Causing the child to withdraw socially and educationally. Far reaching consequences can follow them into adult life if the child involved and those around them don’t receognise the signs and help them accept themselves for who they are and learn to adapt themselves.


subconscious signals

It’s fact that many of our non verbal communication with others is subconscious. We are not aware of it. Our emotions sometimes seem to come from nowhere. Scary how there are so many things bubbling in our minds that we can’t tell where they originate always. Interestingly, there are so many reasons that half the time we don’t bother trying to work it out. Although there are times when we should take the time to look into why some emotions keep resurfacing. Self awareness is one of the most useful tools we have in life.


Having always been into spiritualism in a big way, the workings of the brain are a very real mixture of the spiritual and scientific. Spiritualism and the paranormal can get mixed up to far sometimes and there is a stigma attached to the paranormal. The lines are very blurred. As a result when we talk in terms of the spiritual nature some minds jump straight to the occult. So in light of that, should we start classing beliefs as a disorder. If a person believes in things that cannot be proved with science, should they be “diagnosed” with a disorder? of course they shouldn’t.

What triggers you? Are you an empath?


How can we say that we know so much about the workings of the mind when we only currently use around 10/15% of it at best? With that in mind just think what we may find out exists? The possibilities are endless!! In light of this, should we be calling these traits we learn about in the brain and mind disorders? The very word implies a defect. How do we even know that anxiety is a disorder for example? it can present with some unpleasant side effects but maybe we should be looking into the possibility that it is empathy we are feeling and not anxiety ??


A disorder is maybe something that should be more aligned with brain damage. If a person’s brain is literally damaged and physical processes within them are blocked then the side effects that manifest as a result cannot be avoided. There could be possibilities of training the brain to re route some thought processes and use different parts of the brain. If this were viable then we could re program the brain just like using different software in a computer to do the same job. Comparatively, we currently use social learning as a tried and tested method.

continued in the next post