MIX SCIENCE AND SPIRITUALITY ?? PART 3 should we be mixing the science stats and spirituality to bring down the divorce rate ? More over do we actually what “LOVE” means. I fully admit to only just learning about it at 50 years old. Of course we all know what the word means right ?? wrong !! if we did the divorce rate wouldn’t have been climbing over the last few decades. Marriage used to mean something, So should we be looking at the science stats and mixing it with some spirituality to mend our broken hearts ? For any marriage or committed relationship to survive any storm the couple need to be 100% present with each other. Had someone said that to me when I married in 1996 I would not have known what they meant. Why ? because I wasn’t 100% present with my husband.
MIX SCIENCE AND SPIRITUALITY ?? PART 3 Even when it’s the only option, divorce is horrible. Secondly when children are involved it makes it ten times worse. When a couple are at war with each other it just internalizes and causes damage to the children. Many believe the noisy time is the worst of the storm but the quiet atmospheres that follow. There is nothing more draining than living in a house with an atmosphere you can cut with a blunt knife. Children are very empathic and soak up the mood of their home environment. Empaths are capable of taking on the emotions of those around them. This makes them very understanding and if this trait is carried into adulthood is very useful.
The quiet times are when the energy in the home is stagnant and nobody knows where they stand. We all have a field of energy around us called an aura. Empaths and children react to this energy and it’s disorientating. Children in particular know that their parents are not happy and the unconditional love they feel for them makes that fact more painful for them than the adults. It’s gets worse when the parents are turning into people pleasers and not only insulting each other’s intelligence but the kids also. Like all things spiritual children are born with the traits of it.
WHY LOSE IT ?
Empathy, reading auras and body language. It is something we subconsciously choose to drop in adulthood in the main. Some choose to keep these qualities. Once the arguing stops in a rocky patch, the couple either move on and start a new phase in their relationship or they lose their connection altogether.
In the main ( according to the above stats) divorces tend to rise when a couple have been married more than 20 years. Interestingly this tends to be when people go through a “mid life crisis” . So what is a mid life crisis? just hormonal ? or is it when we start to realize there is more to life than we knew thus far. For me it was when I started to realize I had spent too many years not only with my head firmly stuck up my own rear but focused on the wrong people.
HEAD AND HEART NOT ONE OR THE OTHER
An intimate relationship isn’t just about having a physical relationship with another person. True intimacy is that on a mental level as well as the physical. A close friend of mine once told me something I will never forget. In fact he taught me several things I will never forget but that’s far too much for one post. At the time his words of wisdom largely went over my head in terms of being wasted on a person who had not yet matured emotionally. He spent a lot of time alone and I could never understand why. Unfortunately the penny didn’t drop until it was too late. I asked him one day why he was alone, in other words why he didn’t have a partner. His reply ” Sal an intimate relationship without total connection is a waste of time I may as well pay for sex”.
MIX SCIENCE AND SPIRITUALITY ?? PART 3 MIRRORING
Emotional mirroring is when two people are that close mentally and physically they mirror each others emotions, even when physically apart. I always knew that could happen with twins but not with those not related. Adding to my knowledge of the spiritual, this is what a soul mate connection truly is. Even though you are not blood related or physically in the same room or even town, you know how the other is feeling. For instance, if they are not well or in some kind of trouble. Do we all need to find this kind of connection before marrying or committing? Should we learn about these connections before we reach middle age or have been through several relationships?
MIX SCIENCE AND SPIRITUALITY ?? PART 3
There is still a veil over spirituality. Firstly it tends to get thrown in a box with the occult. This is not true although the lines are a little blurry when it comes to the subject of life after death. So many doors in life open that you didn’t know existed when you understand that you don’t have to look into a crystal ball or be clairvoyant to know that there is a lot more to life than we are led to believe as children and young adults. I believe the answer is to educate young people in the fact that science and the spiritual can work together. Then we would all know the difference between living and existing.
MIX SCIENCE AND SPIRITUALITY PART 4
THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN LOVE AND BEING IN LOVE TOMMORROW