HOW TO KNOW IF SOMEONE IS LYING do we ever really know if someone is lying to us? we can learn to read body language but the truth is everybody lies. It’s true that there is absolutely nobody who can say they are 100% honest all the time. A basic human instinct to survive and protect ourselves means that at some point we have to lie.
HOW TO TELL IF SOMEONE IS BEING DECEPTIVE … there are many ways to tell if someone is lying to you
It actually takes a lot of energy and brain power to be deceptive. It’s a fact that there is so much activity in the brain when we are not being honest. More over it’s tiring because we have to think so much more than if we are being honest. You have to cover every possibility should you be called on the lie. Watch out for certain body language indicators that can at least give you the heads up to be more careful around certain people. If a person moves their hands a great deal when talking to you this is because their brains are racing. They “buzz”. In fact it can be where they are anxious of being found out.
DO THEY FIDGET ALL THE TIME
People who are being deceptive can fidget around in their seat. Neither do they sit still. They shuffle their feet if standing and sometimes hide their hands in their pockets or behind their backs if standing. If they are moving their hands then notice if the palms are toward you or away from you. If their palms are open toward you then it is unlikely you are the target of deceit. Of course we know there are different levels of deception but we all have to deal with it at certain points in our lives. It can be from friends, employers, family or lovers. Sometimes we lie to protect a person’s feelings. Any kind of lie is dodgy ground though.
SO WHAT ABOUT WHEN IT SOMEONE WE HAVE KNOWN FOR YEARS?
Of course the worst kind of deception comes from those we love. It can make you feel like you can never trust anyone ever again. Even if you think you know them better than anyone else, it is possible for them to deceive us. It’s possible that their mental health has changed for the worse. If they answer important questions with too much detail. Those that are replying truthfully will always just send basic and quick answers. Different tones to their voice is another warning sign of a story being told. If it is your partner and their behavior changes drastically and suddenly then it may be an idea to have an honest discussion about why. Be careful not to be too aggressive about watching people and the warning signs. Being permanently suspicious is draining for both sides of the relationship.
DON’T YOU JUST LOVE THE BACK PEDALLING?
I don’t know about you but backpedaling drives me nuts. When someone thinks they can gaslight you into submission and then lie to you about information you absolutely know to be false. Therefore on top of the deception and compromising your sanity, your intelligence has been insulted. So do you see the full circle we have travelled right round to our friend the narcissist! Deception and lying on a regular basis tends to be the work of the narcissist. They set your head spinning with so many details and seeds of doubt that you no longer know what is the truth. The confusion makes you vulnerable to a liar that actually believes their own lies. They have been doing it for so long and got so good at it, they actually believe they are telling the truth.
HOW TO KNOW IF SOMEONE IS LYING
The problem with lying is you almost certainly have to tell another one to cover the first. This ends up being like the ripples on a pond because lying then becomes a way of dealing with everything. The lies get bigger and more complex. When you are talking to your liar and starting to disbelieve you will notice a difference in the way they converse. The pitch of their voice tends to change during the same sentence. As a result they start to panic and they start to stumble over words and use filler words such as “um” and “like”. This also happens when someone is a pathalogical liar. This is when the liar themselves have no idea which is fact and which is fantasy.
All these tactics are used to control the people around them. Those that live by this set of rules are generally those who have little respect for themselves let alone anyone else. It’s generally learnt behavior. In a few cases though severe anxiety and trauma based mental illness can display some of the body language mentioned today. Closed body language, fidgeting when in company, skin blushing, voice tone.
HOW TO KNOW IF SOMEONE IS LYING
it’s not always the case that someone is lying. These are a general guide to warning flags that help us protect ourselves from emotional pain and loss. The best way to use the warnings here today are in business dealings or when you first meet someone. When you have known someone a long time and their behavior changes suddenly, try not to jump to the worst conclusions first. Look at other possibilities before going down the route of confrontation. You could be dealing with suppressed emotion or trauma coming to the surface and your partner may need your help and support,. A partner or loved one’s sudden negative behavior may be a cry for attention or help. If the above signals come from someone you are in a professional situation or a person you just met, Take the hint and keep your distant until you know them better.